On Sunday January 7th, I shared the story about how I overslept when I was supposed to meet Erin’s dad to ask his blessing to marry his daughter. After receiving several questions about the rest of the story, I’ve decided to tell it publicly. But first, let’s review…
It was the winter of 2014. I had decided that I wanted to marry Erin, who’s now my wife of 3 years! Over the years I had heard about the concept of asking the girl’s father for permission to marry his daughter. So, I figured I should probably find a time to do that… And whad’ya know! The perfect opportunity arrived. Erin’s dad was coming to visit her in February, on Super Bowl Sunday.
Erin and I attended college in Kirksville, Missouri, one of the coldest places in all the land. But Erin’s parents lived in Houston, Texas so there were not many chances to see her family in person. This was my golden opportunity. I would meet with Erin’s dad secretly while he was in town and ask him for his blessing to marry Erin! So, I called him up to set up a time to “meet and talk about a few things (wink, wink).” After trying to figure out a time that could work for the both of us to meet (without Erin) he said, “The only time that can work is at 6:30 in the morning on Monday, at the hotel, before I head out.”
6:30? In the morning? I replied, “Yep. I can do that, of course. Yes. I’m sure… It’s very important…sounds good.” What have I just done? Well, I had the time and place set. All I had to do was get up early for that one day, for one of the most important conversations ever. Did I mention I’m not a morning person? Yeah, I overslept. I have an ability to turn off my alarm in my sleep. By the time I woke up Erin’s dad was long gone, out of town. I had missed the golden opportunity because I didn’t get up.
When I had finally woken up I called Erin’s dad. He didn’t answer, so I left a voicemail. I gave the most panicky and heartfelt apology I could speak. He texted me later saying something like, “All good. We’ll talk soon.” Even though my future father-in-law said things were good, I didn’t feel good at all. It was probably one of the most downtrodden days I had ever had. I was ridden with guilt and weighed down by my mistake and irresponsibility.
Eventually, we figured out a time to talk over the phone and have the conversation we were supposed to have in person. Erin’s dad knew what I was up to and was fine talking things over with a phone call. Despite his reassurances, I was still very nervous. Yet, he hardly asked any questions of me. He didn’t fiercely interrogate me. In fact, he was excited to have this conversation with me. He said, “We’d be delighted…for you to marry Erin…to have you in our family.” Wow. Really? Delighted? Yes. He was delighted.
Despite my shortcomings, my soon-to-be father was delighted with me. He forgave my mistake and welcomed me into his family anyway.
Psalm 130:3-4, 7-8
If you, Lord, kept a record of sins, Lord, who could stand? But with you there is forgiveness, so that we can, with reverence, serve you…Israel, put your hope in the Lord, for with the Lord is unfailing love and with him is full redemption. He himself will redeem Israel from all their sins.
Despite David’s and Israel’s shortcomings, our Heavenly Father was delighted with them. He forgave their sins and continued to call them His children.
Despite our shortcomings, God delights in us. He forgives our sins and continues to welcome us into His family anyway.
God continues to delight in you and you know the whole story. God doesn’t leave you hanging. He includes you in the rest of the story. He loves you, and nothing can separate you from His love in Christ Jesus Our Lord…not even oversleeping.
Written By: Vicar Alex Lahue
Posted on Tue, January 9, 2018
by Stacy Yates